Children and the Digital Age — How Technology Is Changing Childhood
Key Scripture:
“Teach a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” — Proverbs 22:6 (KJV)
Childhood has changed.
A generation ago, children spent much of their free time playing outside, visiting friends, reading books, watching television and talking with family members.
Today, a child can carry a computer in a pocket.
A smartphone can provide entertainment, education, games, social interaction, news and communication—all within seconds.
Technology has opened extraordinary opportunities for children. It can help them learn, communicate, create and develop skills for the future.
But it has also introduced new challenges.
UNICEF's 2025 report Childhood in a Digital World notes that digital technology can benefit children through learning, connection and skill development, while also creating risks depending on how children use technology and the content and experiences they encounter online. (UNICEF)
For Christian parents, the question is not simply whether children should use technology.
The better question is:
How can we teach children to use technology wisely without allowing technology to control their lives?
Technology Is Not the Enemy
Christians sometimes approach technology with suspicion.
That is understandable.
Parents see children spending hours on phones, tablets, computers and gaming systems, and they naturally worry about what this means for childhood.
But technology itself is not automatically harmful.
A child can use a tablet to learn mathematics.
A teenager can use the internet to research a school project.
Children can communicate with grandparents who live far away.
Digital tools can provide access to books, educational resources and creative activities.
UNICEF recognizes that digital technology can help children learn, play, communicate and develop digital skills. (UNICEF)
The problem begins when technology replaces things children also need.
Sleep.
Physical activity.
Conversation.
Family relationships.
Creative play.
Responsibility.
Face-to-face friendships.
Quiet time.
The goal should therefore not be to eliminate technology.
It should be to establish balance.
The Digital World Can Shape How Children Think
Children are not simply using technology.
Technology is becoming part of the environment in which they grow up.
The apps they use.
The videos they watch.
The games they play.
The people they follow.
The advertisements they see.
The information presented to them.
The Algorithm Does Not Know Your Child
A child may assume that because an app recommends something, it must be appropriate or valuable.
But an algorithm is not a parent.
It does not know your family's values.
It does not understand your child's spiritual development.
It does not automatically know what your child is emotionally prepared to encounter.
It is designed to keep users engaged, not to raise children according to biblical wisdom.
This is why parents should not surrender their responsibility to technology.
Ask children what they are watching.
Ask why they enjoy certain content.
Watch appropriate content together when possible.
Talk about what they encounter online.
Teach them that a recommendation is not an instruction.
The internet can provide information.
Parents still provide wisdom.
All of these experiences can influence what they consider normal.
UNICEF has highlighted concerns involving children's digital skills, mental health, privacy, safety and unequal access to technology. (UNICEF)
This is why parents cannot simply hand a child a device and assume that the child will automatically know how to use it responsibly.
Children need guidance.
Children Need a Digital Childhood With Boundaries
Children are growing up in a world where digital technology is unavoidable.
The answer cannot always be to remove every device.
Instead, parents can teach children that having access to technology comes with responsibility.
A child can learn:
“I do not have to click everything I see.”
“I do not have to respond to every message.”
“I do not have to watch everything that is recommended to me.”
“I can put the device down.”
“I can tell an adult when something feels wrong.”
These are valuable habits because digital maturity involves more than knowing how to operate a device.
It involves knowing when to use it, when to stop using it, what to avoid, and when to ask for help.
The goal is gradually developing self-control rather than creating dependence on parental restrictions alone.
Screen Time Is Only Part of the Issue
Parents often ask:
“How many hours should my child spend on a screen?”
That is an important question, but it is not the only question.
What is the child doing?
Are they doing homework?
Talking with family?
Learning a new skill?
Creating something?
Playing a game?
Watching inappropriate content?
Scrolling endlessly through short videos?
Talking to strangers?
The type of activity matters.
The American Academy of Pediatrics has moved away from treating media use as a simple one-size-fits-all question. Its guidance emphasizes creating a family media plan that considers the child's age, development, health, personality and family circumstances. (American Academy of Pediatrics)
That is a much more useful approach than simply counting minutes.
Sleep Should Be Protected
One of the easiest areas for technology to interfere with is sleep.
A child may intend to watch one video before bed.
Then another appears.
Then another.
A teenager receives a message.
Someone posts something interesting.
A game is almost finished.
Suddenly bedtime has disappeared.
The American Academy of Pediatrics identifies sleep as an important consideration in healthy media use and recommends family rules that protect sleep and establish boundaries around devices. (American Academy of Pediatrics)
Parents can establish simple household rules.
Devices do not need to sleep in children's bedrooms.
Phones can be charged outside the bedroom.
Mealtimes can be screen-free.
The final part of the evening can be reserved for reading, conversation, prayer and preparing for sleep.
These rules are not punishments.
They are boundaries designed to protect childhood.
Children Still Need Physical Activity
A digital childhood can easily become a sedentary childhood.
A child can spend hours sitting with a phone, tablet, gaming console or computer.
The World Health Organization recommends that children and adolescents limit sedentary behaviour, particularly recreational screen time, and emphasizes the importance of physical activity and healthy sleep. (Iris)
Children need to run.
They need to walk.
They need to play.
They need to climb, jump, explore and interact with the physical world.
A screen cannot replace those experiences.
Parents should therefore make physical activity part of normal family life.
Go for walks.
Play outside.
Garden together.
Ride bicycles where safe.
Play sports.
Visit parks.
Let children experience boredom without immediately handing them a device.
Sometimes boredom is where creativity begins.
Technology Can Become a Substitute for Boredom
Children do not need to be entertained every moment of the day.
Yet technology can make constant entertainment feel normal.
The moment a child says, “I'm bored,” a device can provide an immediate solution.
But boredom is not necessarily a problem that parents need to solve.
A child who has nothing planned may begin drawing.
They may build something.
They may read.
They may invent a game.
They may explore the backyard.
They may talk to a sibling.
They may simply sit and think.
These moments can help children develop imagination, patience and independence.
Parents do not need to make every empty moment productive.
Sometimes it is healthy to allow children to experience ordinary boredom without immediately reaching for a screen.
Technology Can Affect Family Relationships
There is another danger that is easy to overlook.
Technology can place people in the same room while separating them emotionally.
A family sits around the dinner table.
Everyone is physically present.
But one person is watching videos.
Another is texting.
Another is scrolling social media.
Another is playing a game.
Everyone is connected to someone—but not necessarily to each other.
The American Academy of Pediatrics emphasizes the importance of family communication and creating media plans that support family goals and connectedness. (American Academy of Pediatrics)
A Christian home should therefore protect time for genuine conversation.
Put the phones away.
Ask children about their day.
Listen.
Talk about school.
Talk about friendships.
Talk about fears.
Talk about faith.
Pray together.
Children need parents who are emotionally present, not merely physically nearby.
Teach Children That the Internet Is Not Private
Children need to understand that the internet remembers.
A photograph can be copied.
A message can be forwarded.
A video can be downloaded.
A post can spread beyond its original audience.
A private conversation may not remain private.
UNICEF identifies privacy and data protection as important children's rights in the digital age. (UNICEF)
Parents should therefore teach children not to casually share:
Their home address.
School information.
Passwords.
Private photographs.
Personal identification information.
Family financial information.
Their live location.
Other people's private information.
Children should also know that they can come to a parent when something online makes them uncomfortable.
Online Strangers Are Still Strangers
A child may feel as though they know someone because they have been communicating online for months.
But an online identity can be misleading.
The person behind an account may not be who they claim to be.
UNICEF has warned about online risks involving children's safety and exploitation, including the ways digital technology can facilitate harmful contact with children. (UNICEF)
Parents should therefore teach children a simple principle:
Someone being friendly online does not automatically make them safe.
Children should know what to do if someone asks for private photographs, personal information, secrecy or an offline meeting.
Most importantly, they should know that they will not be punished for telling a trusted adult about something frightening or inappropriate.
Teach Digital Discernment
The internet contains enormous amounts of information.
Some of it is excellent.
Some of it is false.
Some is deliberately misleading.
Some is inappropriate for children.
Children therefore need more than internet access.
They need digital literacy.
Teach them to ask:
Who created this?
Why was it created?
Is the information supported by evidence?
Is this trying to sell me something?
Is this designed to make me angry or afraid?
Could this be false?
What do other trustworthy sources say?
These questions become increasingly important as children grow older.
Social Media Can Change Comparison
Social media can make ordinary childhood feel inadequate.
A child sees someone with expensive clothes.
Another child has a new phone.
Someone else goes on luxurious holidays.
Another person appears to have hundreds of friends.
Someone else looks perfect in every photograph.
But social media is not a complete picture of someone's life.
Children need to understand that people usually show selected moments rather than every difficulty they experience.
Parents can help children develop a healthy understanding of comparison.
Your worth does not come from likes.
Your value does not come from followers.
Your identity does not come from appearance.
And your life does not need to look like someone else's online life.
For Christian families, this is an opportunity to reinforce an important biblical truth:
Our identity comes from God, not from public approval.
Don't Make Technology the Babysitter
There are moments when a device can be useful.
A child may need entertainment while a parent handles an important task.
A tablet may provide educational material.
A phone may help during travel.
Technology can be practical.
But parents should be careful about allowing screens to become the default solution for every difficult moment.
A child is upset—give them a phone.
A child is bored—give them a phone.
A child is restless—give them a phone.
A child does not want to wait—give them a phone.
Over time, this can teach a child that uncomfortable feelings should immediately be escaped rather than managed.
Children need opportunities to learn patience.
They need to learn how to wait.
They need to learn how to communicate frustration.
They need to learn how to solve problems.
Technology can assist parents.
It should not replace parenting.
Parents Must Model What They Teach
One of the hardest parts of raising children in the digital age is that parents are also connected.
A parent cannot reasonably demand that a child put away a phone while constantly checking their own.
Children notice.
If parents want children to have healthy digital habits, they should examine their own habits too.
Put the phone down during conversations.
Do not constantly check notifications.
Have screen-free family meals.
Avoid scrolling throughout family activities.
Show children that technology is a tool—not the centre of life.
The American Academy of Pediatrics specifically emphasizes the importance of parents modeling appropriate media use. (American Academy of Pediatrics)
Create Family Technology Rules
Every family can establish its own rules.
For example:
No phones during family meals.
Devices stay outside bedrooms at bedtime.
Parents know which apps younger children are using.
Children ask before downloading new apps.
Private information stays private.
Children tell an adult about disturbing online experiences.
Homework comes before entertainment.
Every day includes physical activity.
Family time is protected from unnecessary screen use.
The important thing is consistency.
Create a Family Digital Sabbath
Some Christian families may benefit from deliberately creating periods when unnecessary technology is put aside.
This does not have to mean rejecting technology completely.
It could mean choosing a particular evening, meal, afternoon, or other regular period for reduced recreational screen use.
Use that time for:
Family conversation
Bible reading
Prayer
Board games
Reading
Cooking together
Walking
Visiting family
Serving others
The purpose is not to create another complicated rule.
It is to remind the family that life exists beyond the screen.
A regular pause can help children—and parents—rediscover the value of being fully present with one another.
Rules that change every day are difficult for children to understand.
Technology Can Be Used for Good
Do not overlook the positive possibilities.
A child interested in science can watch educational demonstrations.
A young musician can learn an instrument.
A student can access digital libraries.
A teenager can learn graphic design, coding, photography or another valuable skill.
Children can create videos rather than simply watch them.
They can write.
They can draw.
They can build.
They can research.
They can communicate.
The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends looking for digital experiences that encourage learning, creativity, critical thinking and healthy social-emotional development. (American Academy of Pediatrics)
The question should therefore become:
Is my child only consuming technology, or are they also creating and learning through it?
A Family Digital Audit
Before creating more technology rules, parents can take a few minutes to examine what is already happening in the home.
Ask these questions together:
What devices do we use most?
Which apps take up the most time?
When do we use screens the most?
Are devices interfering with sleep?
Are we having enough face-to-face conversations?
Are we spending enough time outdoors?
Do our children know how to respond when something inappropriate appears online?
Are parents following the same principles they expect from their children?
Is technology helping our family—or regularly interrupting our family?
There is no need for shame or panic.
The purpose of an audit is simply to notice patterns.
Once the family knows where the problems are, it becomes easier to establish realistic boundaries.
Good digital habits rarely happen accidentally.
They are usually built intentionally.
Technology and Faith
Christian parents also have an opportunity to teach children how their faith applies to the digital world.
Ask:
Would Jesus be honoured by the way I speak to people online?
Am I spreading gossip?
Am I bullying someone?
Am I watching something I would be ashamed for my parents to see?
Am I using technology to encourage people or tear them down?
Am I allowing social media to make me jealous?
Am I spending more time looking at a screen than developing my relationship with God?
These are not merely technology questions.
They are character questions.
The same Christian principles that apply offline apply online.
Integrity still matters.
Kindness still matters.
Purity still matters.
Truth still matters.
Self-control still matters.
Final Thoughts
Technology is changing childhood.
That change is neither completely good nor completely bad.
It creates opportunities that previous generations could not have imagined.
Children can learn, communicate, create and develop skills through digital technology.
But children can also encounter inappropriate content, online risks, privacy concerns, excessive sedentary behaviour and unhealthy digital habits. (UNICEF)
Parents therefore have an important responsibility.
Do not simply give children technology.
Teach them how to use it.
Do not only set restrictions.
Explain why the boundaries exist.
Do not only monitor children.
Build a relationship in which they feel safe telling you what happens online.
Do not demand digital discipline from children while ignoring your own habits.
Lead by example.
And do not allow technology to replace the things children need most.
Family.
Friendship.
Sleep.
Movement.
Creativity.
Conversation.
Faith.
Prayer.
The goal is not to raise children who are afraid of technology.
The goal is to raise children who can use technology without being controlled by it.
In a world where digital technology will become increasingly important, one of the greatest gifts parents can give their children is not simply access to devices.
It is wisdom.
Further Scripture Reading
Proverbs 4:23
“Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.”
Proverbs 22:6
“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”
1 Corinthians 10:23
“All things are lawful for me, but all things are not expedient.”
Philippians 4:8
“Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true... whatsoever things are pure... whatsoever things are lovely... think on these things.”
Ephesians 4:29
“Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying.”
Galatians 5:22–23
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance.”
Authoritative Sources
UNICEF — Childhood in a Digital World: Research on children's digital access, skills, mental health and online experiences. UNICEF report
American Academy of Pediatrics — The Family Media Plan: Guidance for developing individualized family rules around children's digital media use. American Academy of Pediatrics
World Health Organization — Guidelines on Physical Activity and Sedentary Behaviour: Guidance concerning sedentary behaviour and recreational screen time among children and adolescents. WHO guidelines
UNICEF — Children's Rights in the Digital Age: Information on children's privacy, data protection, safety and rights online. UNICEF children's digital rights report
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